Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Happy 4 years, Josiah!

Our little man is four!!! He was very into his birthday this year and spent much of the month before asking if TODAY is my birthday??? Josiah loves to help. I think this is a mixture of intense curiosity and a love for community. This makes him my sous chef, an eager learner, and a caring brother. He is intense when he is upset and feels things deeply. He is empathetic and cares for others who might be hurting (like Sarah losing her first tooth, Gigi starting chemo, BC4 being healthy, and simply Lydia walking in a parking lot).

Weight: 42 lbs 6 ozs (90%)
Height: 43.5 in (97%)
Diaper: he is well potty trained except for at night- we just can't kick the nighttime habit!
Clothing: 4T/5T, shoe size 11

Likes: singing, doing his "school" books (letters and mazes), helping Dad pull weeds, helping mom in the kitchen, riding his bike, glitter glue, wrestling with Dad, snuggling up to listen to a favorite book, babies, playing on the piano, trains and farm equipment (we see lots of it around here!)

Dislikes: hair wash night, Lydia walking in a parking lot without holding hands, letting Lydia play with the baby toys

Schedule: Josiah is going to sleep around 7pm, but we are at an age where he does well if we need to be out later than that. He normally sleeps until around 7am unless Lydia's early morning singing wakes him up. Right now he is in a room by himself (he misses Sarah's company terribly!) and going to sleep faster and sleeping in later than he had been. Naps are mostly a thing of the past. He still spends a "nap time" in his room and usually plays, sometimes reads. Every two weeks or so he crashes for a nap, as well as after shots or sickness.

Eating: He is a good eater and continues to be a heavy water drinker. Josiah plays hard and sweats hard, so this is really no surprise. Favorites foods are yogurt, green peppers, pretzels, cheese, and all manner of candy and special treats. He is willing to try most things, is ok with a little spice, and is not a fan of broccoli, but eats it anyway!

Potty Training: We are all set during the day and naps. Nighttime is a different story. Strangely, he is doing worse since we moved from the apartment (where we first switched from a diaper to a pull-up at night) to the house. He was really good about getting up to use the bathroom when he needed to go after we put him to bed, but before falling asleep. Since we moved, he just goes in his diaper. We'll see how it plays out!

Fun facts:
* He wants to be a painter when he grows up . . . a painter who paints the inside of houses. He recommends that every room be a different color. If that doesn't work out, he is planning on driving a garbage truck.
* Josiah LOVES dancing.
* He is still a really focused little guy when he is into something. It is one of the biggest differences I see between him as Sarah as far as gender goes.
* Classic hymns are some of his favorite songs. I love that those are becoming his heart songs.
* I think he could ride his bike or play with a hose all day.
* Blue Dog remains his favorite nighttime companion.

[no real chronological order]

Naping in his spaceship tent in MA





Riding the "little train" at Easter


Watching our friend, Mr. Dick, blow up balloons and let them go!



Watching school buses from the apartment. It never got old :)


Uncle T and Aunt Laura Kathryn are making sure he gets an introduction to fishing!
This was just after he turned 3.


Sprinklers and sister love!

Dave had the honor of praying at the start of the Cape League baseball season.
He took Josiah out on the field with him!

Practicing :)

Ever at her service



Free cone day at Whole Foods was serious business!

The big boys gave him a job to do at the beach and he was game on.


Homemade moustache . . .

Last day of Sarah's swim lessons called for ice cream.

Yep. He snuck into Sarah's room to play and fell asleep :)

The train set at Barnes and Noble. A Hyannis favorite.

Every time we went to this outdoor mall last summer he wanted to take a picture :)


An all American night! Good times.

Josiah loves understanding how things work, which meant he really loved having the washer and dryer in the kitchen at the apartment.

Our Lego at Halloween.

Back in the land of Krispy Kreme gets everyone excited!

Sweet Blue Dog




He is "reading" to Sarah in their fort.


Riding the train from Hattiesburg to Laurel.

He had a bad stomach bug over the winter.
After several trips to the bathroom I found him hanging out like this :(

Wintertime fun = diaper box car

He folded his bed things for me :)


Sarah made him a TV remote. He made a couch on which to use it!

The trio

Playing dentist :)


He was so excited to dye eggs this year.


Easter morning


I love that he is old enough to play games!


Meeting Baby Harper in MS.


Eyes on the prize . . . Dad's birthday cake decorated by the kiddos


A little more practice on the way out after Big Brother/ Big Sister class.

Everyone else was finished gardening, but this boy can't get enough!

Tuesday, March 29, 2016

Happy 18 months, Lydia!

Our littlest is a delight and continues to be the darling of her siblings. They dote on her and care for her in the sweetest way. We still call her Baby, but it is becoming less and less true. She continues to work her eyebrows when she is unsure about new people or a new activity, but warms up much more quickly and is delighted by silly game play. On her own terms, she likes to dance, sing, and be the center of attention. Maybe she will be our extravert!

Weight: 31 lbs 10 oz (99th%)
Height: 32.75 in (76th%)
Head: 47.5 cm (80th%)

Diapers: size 5, began potty training!
Clothing: 18 (if it is stretchy) and 24 month, 2T (chunky thighs dictate pant size)

Likes: wrestling with Dad, being outside, bananas, books, songs with motions, eyebrow conversations, pretending to do things the big kids do (wash her own hair, wipe on the potty), playing catch

Dislikes: not getting the toy she wants, 9:30 at night (wakes up and cries most nights and has mostly learned to sooth herself back to sleep)

Schedule:
6:30-7am Awake for the day!
9:00-11am   In her crib for "nap"
1:00-3pm   Nap (the real deal)
7pm   Down for bed

Sleep: Lydia is at the same time a deep sleeper and frequent waker. She loves getting away from the fray at 7pm and having her snippet of alone time. She sleeps soundly, but has continued to go through wakeful phases over the past three months. Part of that is that she struggled with an ear infection a month over the winter and each time had a runny nose and new teeth to go along with it. Painful! Just as things were getting back to normal and Dave and I would start to feel human again, she would get another ear infection! Those days are past us (at the moment!) and she is doing much better. She often wakes right around the time we go to bed, but has learned to settle herself back down. Some days she wakes up around 6am and is content to talk and roll happily in her crib until 7am. Big news is that she dropped her first nap cold turkey. She just didn't go to sleep a few mornings, then we were out running errands a few mornings, and when we thought she would be pooped and most need a nap, she didn't take it. She hasn't looked back! I still put her down, because her morning nap is when I do school with Sarah. Hopefully I will be able to milk it until the end of the school year!!!

Physically: As I look back over the pictures in the previous monthly update post, I always think to myself, "wow, she used to be BALD, but look how much hair she has now." Next month, same thing. It is true for this update as well, and I am sure at 21 months I will say the same thing! We can clip a little bow in it now and the baby mullet is less noticeable. It has a nice little curl to it after her bath on her neck and around her ears. She isn't losing any baby weight and still has thighs to be reckoned with. I let her try on a pair of Sarah's too small 5T shorts and they fit her thick little lower body nicely.

Food: She continues to be a good eater and loves fruit. The grand exception is strawberries, which she has never liked. Strange, right?! Her other quirk is that she opens any sandwich I give her. It has become a bit of a messy habit, I think. She drinks lots of milk, but isn't the guzzler that her brother and sister were. Lydia loves hanging onto an apple while we walk or grocery shop and has been known to eat the whole thing, seeds and all, before we noticed. Lots of new teeth have made it easier for her to chew veggies.

Communication: Our late talker is saying plenty now and communicates quite well. I feel like we have developed a pretty good system for a our normal routines. She knows and remembers when I expect please (which she says with her hands and mouth), says "chair" when she is ready to eat, shakes her head for "no", and says the cutest "yeah" you have ever heard when we guess what she wants correctly.

Potty training: Crazy, right? I thought so. She has always loved to keep us company in the bathroom and we happened upon one of our little potties in storage, so we brought it to the apartment and put it in the bathroom. She quickly learned the joy of the routine of opening the lid, sitting for a minute, getting a square of paper and reaching behind to wipe, then tossing it in the trash and closing her seat. She was so proud! She did this for several weeks while Dave and I thought surely not, surely she is not ready. Well, we happened upon the perfect week for potty training- warm (good for being in just a t-shirt and under drawers) and rainy (so we weren't going to be going out anyway)- and it was before the craziness of moving and having a baby. So I decided to give it three days of good effort and then we would make a decision. We committed Wednesday to Friday. Saturday she definitely wasn't trained, but was doing well, so we kept it up and said we would think about it again in a few days. Well, it has been more than two weeks now and she is still improving and doing quite well. She is mostly accident free, more based on our putting her on the potty at strategic times than her knowing she needs to go, and has dry diapers often after trips out. We are going to keep going for now, while still using diapers anytime we wouldn't want to clean up an accidents- that means diaper free when we are at home and she isn't sleeping! We'll see how things evolve :)

Fun things:
- One of the first words she added when she started talking more was "baby." Nothing delights her more than walking through the diaper isle, which has a baby on every box!
- Less than a fun thing, but we had our first trip to the emergency room with one of our kids this quarter. A couple of days after starting antibiotics for one of her ear infections (which she got the first week of December, first week of January, and first week of February) she woke up around the time we were going to bed, which was kind of normal. But this time, she didn't settle down. When Dave picked her up she coughed so hard and long it sounded like she was throwing up. I got up to help him clean up, but it turned out she just couldn't catch her breath. She didn't want to swallow (or take a pacy) and we were worried she had an infection in her throat or swelling. So we called the doctor's office and talked to a nurse. She listened to Lydia breath over speaker phone for about 15 minutes and ultimately said, "you don't need to call an ambulance, but you do need to bring her to the ER and have her seen." Yikes! This was about 11:30pm. We quickly regrouped and Dave took her in. They did an Xray to check her lungs and kept an eye on her oxygen levels and declared her to just be stuffy. The doctor suggested a humidifier make her sound better and help us worry less. They made it home around 2am and she hasn't had an ear infection since!
- Since we moved Lydia has been sleeping in the pack n' play in her room and the crib was set up in the big kids rooms, a left over from our dreams of having them all sleep together. Turns out she didn't sleep well enough for that! Well we finally decided to give her the real crib back (it became the obvious choice when she started playing under the pack n' play mat) and she loves the space and the bounce.
- Lydia's hair is a light brown color, which means that all the kids have their own color. I wonder how BC4 will fit in!
- Sarah made Lydia a picture with her name on it and hung it over the changing table. We read it a few times saying L-Y-D-I-A. Lydia loves to look at it and repeat the rhythm, da-doo-dee-da-A! She always ends with a very happy A :)
- After taking a Christmas picture against the wall in our home, anytime she sensed we were using our phones to take a picture, she would stop what she was doing and run to stand against the wall and smile. We missed many a good picture to this sweet habit! She has just stopped running every time and has added a cheesy grin to her funny picture routine.
- She has developed an angry streak and very purposely acts on it. This includes sometimes includes screaming, throwing, and hitting. And that means discipline has also begun, but she acts so deliberately that it is almost cute. We'll see how this part of her character develops!

That time she found a blue marker . . .

Playing with the big kids

Dancing with Dad

Posing for a Christmas craft

the result!

These two :)

She puts the sloppy in sloppy joes

He was a good sharer :)

One of her favorite seats around Christmas- an open foot!

"I know what to do with these!"

Her favorite seat in MS- a stool in the bathroom.

Second favorite, bottom of the stairs. Just to make Mom nervous.

Proud of herself for getting Sarah's new shoes on.




He is incredibly tolerant 

Some kids sleep with stuffies, Lydia likes a handful of pacies.

I pull out the camera, she runs to the wall.


Wall pics are cute though :)

She isn't to be left out of a game

Being silly with Dad

And this is how she got the crib back


She knows how to take advantage of a quiet moment  :)

"wiping"



Rainy day fort with the big kids

She doesn't sit down for long when the TV is on,
but she loves to settle down just like the big kids at first.



Sunday, March 27, 2016

From the mouths of babes . . .

(See this post for a similar story about Sarah.) 

The kids were all at each other a few Sunday afternoon's ago as they cleaned up from a little too much nap time fun. Even Lydia was in on the bickering. Several times we called them into the living room to talk to them about the things we were hearing. At one point Dave had both Sarah and Josiah standing before him and talked to them, again, about looking out for the interests of others before their own interests. This has been a theme in our home lately and means lots of asking, “Sarah, what do you think Josiah would most like right now” and “Josiah, how could you best love Sarah.” Dave started in on this line of reasoning and Josiah responded with something like, “well, Dad, I think Sarah most wants to fight, so I should probably keep fighting with her.” 

We weren’t able to hide our laugher. 

The situation was diffused and we all relaxed a little and had a good chuckle. And Dave clarified that fighting with each other was never an option, plus it wasn’t really what Sarah was hoping for. Sarah thought through what Josiah needed and the clean-up job happened slowly, but surely. These are the hard, precious, mundane moments that we treasure so dearly.

Saturday, January 30, 2016

BC-4!

After watching the latest Star Wars movie, we affectionately started calling our newest little one BC-4 (for Baby Cook #4) in honor of the droid in the movie. The nickname stuck with our kids and they use it with a straight face. Dave and I don’t always achieve a straight face when saying it!

We found out we were having this little one on October 21, exactly two weeks after driving away from our home on the Cape. It was intimidating to so quickly be on the hunt for doctors and figuring out insurance, but wonderful to share in this good news as a family while we settled into our new home in KY. We made Lydia her own “Big Sister” shirt and started sharing the news by FaceTiming with the grandparents on Halloween.

Now the kids get to be "Big" twinkies :)
What we know so far:

* Due date is Tuesday, June 21. We didn’t have an early ultrasound to confirm, but we did get to see this little nugget at the 12 week visit on a handheld ultrasound machine to see her heartbeat. The kids were there and technology is awesome!

* BC-4 will (mostly likely) be born at Owensboro One Health Hospital. It is about 35 minutes from Hawesville, and the the OBGYN office I go to is in a connected building of medical offices. The whole campus is about two years old and still feels very fresh.

* The big kids are really excited. When I was pregnant with Lydia I was scared we wouldn’t celebrate her in utero the way Dave and I celebrated the first two. Boy, was I wrong! When we were experiencing pregnancy with a big girl Sarah (Josiah was still young) we talked about the baby way more often and celebrated each movement and milestone in an even more grand fashion. That has been true this time around as well. Sarah and Josiah are both very aware of our little one. They have been with us to hear the heartbeat and watch the ultrasound and I am excited for them to grow up knowing that the little nugget in a mother’s tummy very quickly turns into a baby like Lydia.

* We found out on January 29 that BC-4 is a girl! This means that all of our kids have fit into a very particular gender predicting model :)


The youngest among us were tired and hungry. 
They were great during the ultrasound, but not so great for pictures beforehand.

Girls in pink

Boys in blue


"Hello, world!"


* I took morning sickness meds this time around. I’ve never had a doctor offer before, so I’ve always just toughed it out. Sarah came with me to an early appointment and I mentioned some vomiting and the doctor asked how often. Sarah pipped up with “a lot.” Well, the doctor took pity on me and offered, and I took her up on it. I took a medication called Diclegis that is a simple combo of Unisom and vitamin B. The same combo under a different name was taken off the market in the 80s after a publicity scandal, but after 30 years of subsequent research it was reintroduced under the new name.

* At our latest ultrasound we also found out our little one is healthy! There was one angle on the heart that the technician couldn’t get, so I get to go back in a month for more pictures. I don’t mind that one bit! We saw her kicking her legs and chomping her mouth.

* I haven’t felt any definite movement yet (at 19 weeks, 4 days). The ultrasound tech checked placenta placement and it is toward my spine, so that isn’t why I’m not feeling things. (It was on the front with Sarah and I felt movement with her quite late.) It might be all the brownies/cookies I’ve been eating to comfort myself through the house buying process!

* The great name debate can officially begin. We gave up even brainstorming names before gender was known after Sarah, because that is a lot of work! And a rule of nature says that the gender of the name you easily agree on is surely not the gender you will find out you are having. (I would add that to my gender predicting model, but we only tested it for one pregnancy. Insufficient data!)

* We are taking pregnancy progress pictures :)

November 21
9 weeks, 4 days

* The big kids love to kiss my belly goodnight and Josiah is especially good at remembering to pray for BC-4.

* We have signed up for a couple of classes at the hospital. I am really excited for the kids to go to a sibling class in April. They are supposed to bring a baby sized doll and will get to tour the maternity floor. In March, Dave and I are attending a refresher class. Doing this with each new hospital (this is our third) brings me some comfort since they all have slightly different policies, procedures, and resources. Also, I’ve learned I forget a lot in two years and really do need to be refreshed!

Thursday, January 14, 2016

Halfway Through Kindergarten!

There is much we would like to share about our reasons for homeschooling and the method we chose to do it, but this post is a celebration. We are halfway through our first year!!! This morning we officially finished week eighteen of thirty-six weeks of kindergarten. Sarah and I are feeling triumphant!

Dave asked her over dinner to think about how long it had been since she started school and then imagine that she has that much school left. She naturally said that it had been a loooooong time since we started :)

Here is a sample of her big writing assignment for the week. This was the prompt:

C: Thank-you Note
Are your children grateful? Are you working to instill in them a servant’s heart that’s always full of gratitude? Use today’s assignment to talk to your children about all they have to be thankful for.
When you’re ready, have your children write a thank-you note to someone. It could be to a friend for a gift or a relative for a nice visit. If your schedule works out well, have your children write thank-you notes for Christmas presents received.
Remember: At this level, they should dictate to you what they want to write. You, then, will write out carefully, in precursive script, what they want to say. Finally, let them copy it onto wide-ruled paper, which they can then decorate to make it into “stationery.”
You’ll want to help them understand the standard personal letter format, which should include the following: the date, a salutation, the body of the letter, and a closing, such as “Yours truly.” If possible, show them a recent letter that someone has sent to you. [I showed her one from Grandma Lynda. Thanks for the note, Grandma!] If necessary, you can even show them junk mail you’ve received. What’s important is teaching them the important parts of a personal letter.
To evaluate their efforts, simply look to see that they’ve clearly expressed their gratitude. If they added interesting details, that’s great! But it’s good enough if they were able adequately to express what they’re thankful for.

She worked really hard, and this was her note:

"Thank you for taking me on dates, just me and you.
I really liked the time we went to the mall to play with trains." 

She put it on dear dad's pillow and the next morning, he had a note for her :)

"I want you to know how much I love you.
I really like taking you places,
and can't wait to take you to McDonalds soon for ice cream."

I am most thankful at this halfway point to see her improvement. She is really learning and it is so neat to watch her grow.